An estimated 67% to 93% of human communication (according to
university researchers) is non-verbal, and someone reading your body
language will reveal your internal emotional state. Whether someone's
parents just died, or whether they just got promoted to CEO... you can
tell by reading their body language.
So, as a man who tries to pick up and seduce women, you should be
mindful of what you're communicating non-verbally. Always assume she's
reading your body language.
Your body language and her reading your body language consists of the following:
- Your movements. They should be nonchalant, as if you're so fabulously
successful that there's rarely a reason for you to rush nor try to
impress anybody. Move through the world doing what you want and
assuming that others will follow. If she's reading your body language
she will be instantly impressed and attracted to this type of
confidence.
- The displacement of your body. Your arms and legs should be spread out. Don't be afraid to take up space.
- Your voice. It should have a calm, soothing, and commanding effect. Don't speak too fast or strain your voice.
- Your face. Keep your facial muscles relaxed. Never tense your jaw, and only rarely should you frown or wrinkle your brow.
- Your shoulders. Keep them relaxed like they'd be if you just got a massage. Don't raise them up like a nervous person.
I would even go as far as to say that if a women is reading your body
language, it is more important than anything you say (her reading your
body language that is), because if she is reading your body language
and it doesn't match what you say, then you won't succeed with women.
Remember...act as if she's always reading your body language.
You see, if you tell a woman stories that convey your confidence, but
at the same time you slump over and fold your arms, then you come
across as fake.
I've picked up women before merely through the use of them reading my
body language. For example, a couple months ago I was at a coffee shop
that I frequent, lounging on the couch, arms spread out, with my feet
up on the table.
The mindset I had was that I felt so comfortable that it was as if I
were in my home lounging on my own couch. It was as if I owned the
coffee shop.
The net result was that a girl sitting near me put down her book and started engaging me in random small talk.
(Whenever an attractive girl you don't know starts a random
conversation with you, you should ALWAYS assume that she's attracted to
you. This is because women generally won't risk the whole male-female
dynamic, especially with a stranger, unless they feel attraction.)
The conversation went on for awhile, I got her number, called her that
night, and a few days later we met and after several hours went to her
place, where I spent the night. (We finally had sex in the morning.)
The bottom line though is that she became initially attracted to me and approached me because she was reading my body language.
Now, of course reading body language and your actual body language
isn't enough. You also must have an internal alpha male mindset that's
consistent with your body language and her reading it.
But make no mistake about it... if she's reading your body language and
it conveys confidence, then your mood will also shift to become more
confident. And have you ever noticed how when you walk with a spring in
your step, you feel more upbeat?
Conversely, when you cast your eyes down and drag your feet, you feel
depressed. So your mindset also follows the body language that you
adopt and if she's reading your body language then she will see that
depression and become turned off to you.
So, in conclusion, be an alpha male with your mindset and your body
language. Always assume that she is reading your body language and act
accordingly. Be in a woman's personal space and be sexual and
interested in her, but at the same time don't be needy or desperate for
her attention. Just be comfortable and enjoy yourself.
And when she is reading your body language and it conveys that, it
means you'll later be comfortable and enjoying yourself... with the
woman.